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Heidi Selig's avatar

I had a mother. She was awful, hateful, raging and jealous of me from the moment I could walk. I'm glad you mothered yourself and mothered your children so well they are full of joy. I'm sorry we didn't have mothers we deserved or mothers at all. I wish I had what you wished for too. You are a wonderful human and writer.

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Robyn Ryle's avatar

Also one of those secret armies of people who had a mother, but didn't really have a mother. Here's to mothering ourselves and doing better for the next generation.

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Jendi's avatar

Gee, are we siblings? Sorry we have that in common! I kept making friends with narcissistic older women till I realized I had to be my own parent.

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Amy Shearn's avatar

This is beautiful. And just to say — you’ve been a literary mother to so many of us ❤️

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Sabian Raine's avatar

This resonates deeply.

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Janet Jennings's avatar

What a lovely post. Thank you. I understand motherlessness and learned slowly how to mother myself and others. ❤️

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Ann G. Forcier's avatar

A tale that needs telling, the sharing that heals and gives permission to others to realize "I'm am not the only one." So powerful.

Sounds like your children are doubly blessed.

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Elizabeth Isadora Gold's avatar

Once again how much do I love this?

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Judith Pacht [JRP]'s avatar

Thank you for sharing your loss, a courageous act and beautifully expressed. In some other way you and your daughter are filling what was missing for you. Thank you again for your honesty..

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